Do You Really Love That Person or Just Convincing Yourself?
- How do you feel about them/around them/toward him when your heart is open and you’re not in an anxious state?
- Do you like talking to them?
- Do you find them interesting?
- When your heart is open (fear isn’t in the driver’s seat), do you feel connected to them?
- Did the word “chemistry” just spike your anxiety?
- When you’re not anxious, are you drawn to them?
- Do you feel connected to them and do you enjoy spending time together?
- Do you WANT to marry him? Forgetting all of the fear or lack of emotions, what do you want deep down?
- What do you want?
#1 Surprising Reason Men Said They Chose Their Wife
Kind… nice… thoughtful… Hmmm. Was it really that simple? Do men actually want to marry “bitches” or women who “play it cool,” as I’ve read in some popular advice books? Or do they really, deep down, just want someone nice?
The guys who stand the test of time-the ones who make the best husbands and continue treating you with respect after “I do”-are impressed during the dating phase by a nice person. The word “nice” gets a bad rap in our society today: I think it is often synonymous with “boring” (which was my own initial assumption!). But from my research, I can assure you that marriage-minded men sit up and take notice of women who display kindness before any other trait.
Opposites Do Not Attract
Opposites may initially attract, but once the novelty wears off, research ( Buston and Emlen, 2003 ) indicates they don’t stand the test of time.
Familiarity in the way we communicate and express love and affection is comforting and a strong foundation for a lasting and loving relationship.