Platonic Love or Romantic Love: Ways to Tell

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Falling in love is probably one of the most mystical phenomena one could ever experience. When you fall in love, you succumb to a gamut of human emotions—joy, sorrow, excitement, and sometimes, even depression. Falling in love becomes a bit more perplexing if you find yourself falling in love with a close friend. Now, this is where denial and rationalization enter the picture. Initially, you become confused as to what you are feeling. Then you ponder whether what you’re feeling is only an extension of the platonic love you feel for a friend.

The key here is self-introspection. There is a need to confront yourself, look in the mirror and ask yourself the following questions. Honest answers, however, are necessary for you to gauge if the platonic feeling you have for a friend is blossoming into something romantic.

1. Have you changed?

Did you suddenly become self-conscious on how you look, what you wear and what you say in front of your friend? Have your feelings changed? Does your friend’s presence suddenly becomes enough to make you feel ecstatic? Do you find yourself putting your friend under a microscopic eye, pondering and extracting meanings on what he or she says or does?

2. Do you think of your friend 24/7?

One always keep a friend in mind; however, thoughts about a friend does not perpetually cross one’s mind every second of the day and every day of the week. If you find yourself thinking of your friend practically all your waking hours and before dozing off to dreamland, then it might be a sign that you are falling in love with your friend.

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10 Things Never To Say In A Relationship

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Generally speaking you should be yourself and be able to say whatever you want when you’re in a relationship. But exercise caution and never find yourself uttering these lines if you don’t want to end up in the doghouse: 

1.      “My ex always used to do __________”. They don’t want to hear about how your ex used to cook for you all the time. Or how they worked out every day. Or anything about them at all, really.

2.      “You’re like a brother/sister to me”. Major romance killer. You are not siblings, so steer clear of any familial comparisons.

3.      “Why can’t you be more like ________?” Don’t compare your partner to someone else or expect him or her to live up to someone else’s standards. No one wants to hear that you think someone else is doing something better than they are.

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How to Avoid Getting Too Comfortable in a Relationship

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It’s great when you get passed the point of having to impress your new boyfriend or girlfriend by always being on your best behavior. But be careful not to get too comfortable by avoiding these pitfalls:

1.     Don’t just assume you have plans.  Maybe you spend most Friday nights going to the movies, but don’t fall into a rut where you just assume that this is the case.  Make a point to ask them if they want to hang out rather than just taking it for granted that you have a standing date.

2.     Don’t slob out. Yes, you can relax and wear sweats – not every night calls for your best outfit. But don’t relax to the point of not showering, having bad breath or wearing your rattiest clothes around each other.

3.     Control bodily functions. It’s never ok to let one rip around your boyfriend or girlfriend. If it happens, excuse yourself, and don’t make it a regular occurrence.

4.     Resist TMI. That taco you had for lunch might be wreaking havoc on your digestive system, or your doctor might have told you that your foot rash is the worst they’ve ever seen, but resist the temptation to share every detail. They don’t need to know EVERYTHING about you.

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Sometimes the perfect partner for you has been right there all along, you just didn’t notice.

The 12 signs of True Love in a perfect romance

By Elizabeth Arthur

True love may be hard to define, but the signs to read true love can be clearly seen in every perfect loving relationship.

#1 Give and take in love. You give to the relationship wholeheartedly, without any desire or expectations of getting something back in return from your partner to justify your actions.

#2 Pure happiness. Just watching this special person smile or laugh out loud fills you with intense happiness, even if you’re suffering or having a hard day.

#3 Pain and anger. You get terribly hurt when your lover upsets you, but their actions never anger you. You may get annoyed or frustrated now and then momentarily, but you just can’t stay mad at them for long because staying mad or giving them the silent treatment hurts you more.

#4 Sacrifices. You make sacrifices for their happiness or wellbeing, even if they may never realize it.

#5 The right effort. You go to great lengths and make an effort to improve the relationship, and play a conscious part in trying to please your partner and make them feel loved and special.

#6 You can’t ever hurt them. When you’re truly in love with someone, you can’t even imagine hurting them, emotionally or physically. Payback is a strong human instinct, but true love makes you completely selfless.

#7 You keep your promises. When you make a promise to them, you stick to your word even if his person will never find out if you broke their promise. When you experience true love, your moral conscience becomes very strong when it comes to this one special person.

#8 We. In a perfect relationship, it’s good to have your own space to grow as individuals. But at the same time, if you truly love your
partner, you’d see them as a part of your life. When you think of your future, you can’t help but see them by your side.

#9 You share their burden. And you do that even if you don’t really have to. You can’t bear to see this special someone suffering. If they’re dealing with some issue, you’re always willing to offer them a helping hand even when you have your own difficulties to look into.

#10 Pride and jealousy. You beam with pride when they achieve something, even if it’s the same thing you failed at. You may get jealous of a friend who outdid you, but when you love someone, jealousy never enters the picture.

#11 Suffering. You’d be willing to suffer, just to see them happy.

#12 Their perspective. Everything you do, you keep your lover in mind and think from their perspective, be it about planning a surprise party or hanging out with your own friends after work. You don’t ever want to hurt your lover, so you always think from their point of view before making any decision that involves them in any way.

When does one experience True Love?

True love takes time to bloom.

What you experience in the first year or so of a relationship is infatuation and sexual attraction.

As the bursts of infatuation start to fade with the first few arguments and the first few misunderstandings, that’s when love starts to enter the picture.

And this is where most couples start to drift away emotionally, or even end up breaking up because of incompatibilities.

If you’re in a relationship where both of you truly understand each other and feel compatible with each other, and most importantly, love each other, chances are, you’re experiencing true love already.

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True Love can’t be forced

True love has to be experienced naturally and wholeheartedly. You can’t fake true love no matter how hard you try. If a couple fails to pass the test of compatibility in their infatuation stage, it’s pretty hard for both of them to ever experience true love.

On the other hand, if both partners can understand each other and relate to each other, they’ll start to love each other’s company and start to become inseparable. And eventually, this bond will turn into a pure and selfless love that we call true love.

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My Future Husband, don’t get shocked of me stealing your kiss or hug anywhere i want to, when no one sees us. I always do that to my Mother and Sister and i love PDA, actually ;)

In romance, i always have this rule: Negative until proven Positive. If the guy doesn’t show any REAL attempt, then i’ll conclude he doesn’t have special feeling for me.