My Past Relationship Cycle
- "Oh, that friendly guy is quite cute!"
- "Look, it seems like he wants my attention."
- "How about i let him know i’m also interested by flirting a little bit?"
- "Now he’s chasing me. Let’s see how far he can go."
- "And he’s still chasing me after all this time?"
- "Now i begin to be afraid. Is he worth it?"
- "I’m confused."
- "I still can’t make a decision. Sorry. But please wait a little bit?"
- "I like him, but.. do i want to have him as my partner?"
- "Where is he?"
- "There he is, but he’s walking with a girl and he doesn’t introduce her to me."
- "Really? He’s in a relationship now?"
- "Why still he acts as if he’s available in front of me?"
- "Hmm, i’m not interested in him anymore. I don’t like to be the third party."
- "Well, next guy, please! How about a cool mysterious type now?"
And it will be back to number 2 until 15. Rinse and repeat.
I finally know where my fault is. I think i took too much times in making decision, but some of my friends told me it’s because those guys weren’t the one. Deep in my heart i agree with them.
Imagine Me As A Romantic Partner or Wife
Dating or being in a relationship with an ENFP can be an eye-opening experience – people with this personality type are very imaginative, flexible and enthusiastic, always coming up with new plans and ideas.
Furthermore, ENFPs are very devoted and reliable partners, willing to do everything to make sure that the relationship is strong.
That being said, every stick has two ends and the ENFP personality type is not an exception.
The main problem that ENFP personalities are likely to encounter when it comes to dating and relationships in general, is that they may find it quite tricky to remain focused on a clear goal.
ENFPs are very spontaneous – careful, long term planning is naturally difficult for them. This weakness may complicate their dating efforts and long-term romantic relationships as other personality types may see the ENFP as inconsistent or erratic, despite the fact the ENFPs tend to take their responsibilities very seriously.
That being said, the ENFPs’ devotedness comes with an important caveat. Most people with this personality type are constantly looking for new ideas and improvements – this is a great trait, but it must be kept in check when
it comes to romantic relationships. Otherwise, the ENFP may start fantasizing about a better relationship soon after the first date or keep
pushing their long-term partner towards new things and experiments.
Less mature ENFPs may constantly seek new experiences as a source of excitement, regardless of their potential consequences – if their partner does not reciprocate (and very few personality types can cope with this), the ENFP may feel unhappy and misunderstood.
ENFPs tend to be passionate and enthusiastic partners, trying really hard to make sure that the other person is happy and showering them with affection.
ENFPs also love hearing compliments, often asking for them indirectly. People with this personality type should keep this trait in check during the dating phase as it is likely to be perceived as neediness by their potential partners.
The ENFP’s partner will appreciate and enjoy the warmth and excitement that this personality type brings into the relationship.
ENFPs are mysterious, idealistic and deeply emotional – these traits not only tend to attract potential dating partners, but also keep the flame of their relationship burning for many years to come.
People with the ENFP personality type are willing and able to enliven their romantic relationships in unusual and exciting ways, often surprising even their long-term partners.
If an ENFP decides to commit to the relationship, their devotedness will be unshakeable.
As already mentioned, ENFPs are very emotional individuals and this affects their romantic relationships in many ways. Some of the ENFPs’ emotions run quite close to the surface and are easily noticeable, but some are hidden very deep within their minds. This trait may surprise or even shock their partners who may have thought that they had figured everything out –
ENFPs tend to be bewilderingly deep and intense individuals, and that intensity is not always apparent. This is one of the reasons why ENFPs are often quite careful about opening up and committing to their partners – relationships mean a lot to them and a failed relationship can hurt the ENFP immensely. They may keep asking themselves why did the relationship fail, when they had been trying so hard to make their partner happy. Such soul searching can easily crush the ENFP’s self esteem and plunge them into depression – it is crucial that the ENFP realizes that the success of the relationship is a shared responsibility
and they cannot carry the weight alone.
ENFPs tend to be very imaginative and passionate lovers, always happy to explore and experiment. Traditions and schedules are an anathema to ENFPs – they would much rather do something crazy every day than agree to stick to clearly defined roles and intimacy at regular intervals. Furthermore, they can be quite perfectionistic in this area, believing that sexual interaction is something that both partners should see as a great way to share love and affection. ENFPs also tend to be fairly liberal when it comes to intimacy during the dating phase.
Sexually, The ENFP is creative, perfectionistic, playful and affectionate. Their rich fantasy world makes them fun and creative lovers, who usually have new ideas up their sleeves. They whole-heartedly embrace the opportunity for closeness with their mates, believing sexual intimacy to be a positive, fun way to express how much you love
Imagine Me Being A Mother
ENFP personalities are likely to be creative, enthusiastic and warm parents.
People with this personality type are known for their playfulness and their approach to parenting is a reflection of this –
ENFP parents love watching their kids play, experiment and learn.
ENFPs dislike environments that are too stable and predictable, and consequently are unlikely to try to create something like this for their children.
ENFP parents tend to be intensely emotional and observant – they will easily notice if their child is not feeling well, either physically or emotionally.
However, this affection may also be somewhat overbearing and the ENFP’s children are likely to try to distance themselves from the ENFP a little bit, especially during the teenage years.
People with the ENFP personality type will be very dedicated parents, doing their best to be both their child’s best friend and a respected authority figure.
ENFPs will also give their children plenty of freedom and teach them how to have fun without compromising their values and ideals.
But it’s just the way i am who can be sad/angry one minute and be happy again the next minute :D
The more i get to know him, the more convinced i am that he is an ISFP.
Who knew that i, as an ENFP, could fall for ISFP while i spent all my life searching for INTJ/ISTJ who is my perfect match, theoritically.
I love him so much to the point i will bear broken heart if he chooses someone else because he loves her.
It’s amazing to know there are many ISTJ-ENFP relationship actually :D
Scumbag - ENFP
I have a feeling you’re not going to like this much. Do I care? No. How do I know? It’s because you hate criticism. You love to be loved and you’ll do anything to be accepted.
Unfortunately for you, I can see right through your insincere compliments and over-the-top greetings. No matter what you do, I’ll always hate you for what you are. An arrogant, unstable, overly enthusiastic scumbag.
I bet you’re pretty proud of your accomplishments, huh? You seem to achieve at whatever you put your little mind too. Trust me. Nobody likes the person who is good at everything. NOBODY LIKES YOU.
This might also have something to do with the fact that you’re a cheating machine. You’re just not the type of person to make long-term commitments. You enjoy seeing “what could be”, rather than being satisfied with “what is.” This, of course, means you often leave others in the dust while you seek out another lover.
Well, at least you’re not the one left in the dust.
Unfortunately, when you’re the one lying in the gutter with a bloody knife in your back, you might think differently.
If you want to learn more about your personality type in a slightly less negative way, check out this.