"‘Being ready’ for a man is a combination of the right woman and the right time."
Psychologist Alon Gratch PhD
"When God knows you’re ready for the responsibility of commitment, He’ll reveal the right person under the right circumstances."
Joshua Harris
Quiz: How Commitment Resistant Are You?
hen you resist being absolute in promising yourself to something or someone and/or keep yourself out of situations where you would have to be vulnerable and committed, it shows that you have commitment issues.
"Commitment gives direction to a relationship and without it, you’re just floating."
Baggage Reclaim
Alright, i will definitely beat this commitment phobia!!!!
Nobody’s perfect. Not even you. So, if he makes a mistake, or if you find a flaw in him, don’t exaggerate it to a mammoth size. Don’t let your commitment phobia show its ugly face and destroys your potential relationship once again.
How to Deal with Commitment Phobia
If you, too, feel that you have that fear of commitment issue and want to get rid of it, below are the steps that you can do:
- Recognize the root of your fear
- Learn to trust
- Take it slowly
- Don’t keep saying what you want from a relationship
- Be open
- Learn to forgive
- Value yourself
Commitment-Phobic Women
They know that such a prince charming exists only in little girl’s dreams, but they just can’t help it. If they find a little flaw in their boyfriend and that “flawed” guy shows their serious interests to take the next step, then that fear creeps out their minds….
Commitment Phobia in Women
You might be confused of her acts. She seems to always restrain herself from you every time you try to talk to her seriously about the relationship.
You love her, and from what you perceive, you know that she’s in love with you, too. But what is it that makes her so hesitate to commit herself to you fully and even hurts you by keeping her distance from you?
A woman who has fear of commitment problem lives in paradox. The paradox is, she craves what she fears the most: love and connection. It is love and connection that she desires the most. She literally dreams it. But her fear stands in the way. She can’t help it but sheering off when she feels that she has become too close to the man she loves.
That’s why she did all that she did: although she loves you, she often becomes so critical to you or hurts you with her words and actions. It is as if she wanted to sabotage and destroy every good things that you both have in the relationship.
Quiz: Are You a Commitmentphobe?
My Result:
Might Be a Commitmentphobe
You’re the kind of person who is usually open to love and strives to keep a healthy balance between giving yourself over to a relationship and maintaining a life of your own. You’re also levelheaded and know the importance of following the five stages of dating, especially uncertainty, which must be faced head-on when it arises.
But even the strongest person has weak moments. Chances are, you’ve wavered between being afraid of commitment and not being afraid of commitment. For you it can truly depend on the other person. Perhaps your past experiences tainted the idea of commitment for you and made you a little gun shy … but your gut still tells you most of the time to go with your heart because you have had those few gems of relationships that gave you great happiness. The tough part for you is that you know when you’re letting your head get the better of you and don’t like it when you start getting freaked out by the idea of committing to one person.
The chances of you being a commitmentphobe might be encouraged to surface when you find yourself in a relationship where the other person is pushing you to commit. You’re more likely to react positively to someone who gives you the space to ease into the relationship than someone who is demanding explanations about how you feel and why you feel that way.
Being forced to make a decision about commitment will make you less willing to commit at all. If you do find yourself in a situation like this, you don’t have to write off that partner immediately – his or her heart is in the right place. But it’s important to reassure your partner that yes, you may have a few doubts, but if given enough time to think and process and settle into the relationship, you do have the ability to commit and are willing to try. Your partner has a right to know where you stand as well – and if you’re already certain that you’re not going to be in it for the long haul and he or she is asking, at least be honest. If you simply want a casual relationship, don’t cover up your intentions by claiming that you’re afraid of commitment. Not guts, no glory – you would want someone to be honest with you, right?
HOW ABOUT YOU? TRY HERE
"Sometimes, in the early stages, love just fades. It’s not necessarily about either partner. This is why it’s rarely wise to make a lifetime commitment within weeks of falling in love—the feeling may dissipate. It takes time to see if the love you share is the permanent kind. And if it’s not, it isn’t a statement about you at all. It simply means the relationship ran its course, and it’s better to discover that while dating than after a trip down the aisle."
eHarmony
That’s the thing about me. Everytime a guy gets serious, i’ll push away. Is it a commitment phobia? I don’t know. Everything about romantic relationship is confusing!
"In my 25 years of experience, working with men as a relationship therapist, it’s 49 percent the right woman, 51 percent his readiness to commit"
Psychologist Alon Gratch PhD
